A friend in need…

People misinterpret this thinking that the measure if a friendship is made from the things people do to each other in kind. Truth is that friends do things for friends when they need them most but are not able to repay, not now and maybe never. The gesture is selfless. I also think that friends should be not because of the deeds they do to each other, but for what they are to each other. This extends to romance or love. What we do to others is a consequence of what and who we are to them. Our actions become relevant through what we mean to them, what we are that they find it is important to them. That is why friendship or romance or love is born out of intimacy, the discovery of our bare selves.